There are so many things going on with my family and those that I love at the moment. My heart has been heavy over so many things and someone recently made this comment to me "Well, the Bible says God won't give us more than we can handle, so we have to handle it" and I was sitting there thinking, 'If that's the case, then why do I feel like I'm falling apart? Why does this load seem too heavy?' And suddenly, unbidden, an article I read some months back came to mind. It discussed how I Corinthians 10:13 is so often misquoted and misapplied. This verse does not tell us that God will not give us more than we can bear. It's talking about temptation, not suffering. God won't tempt us beyond what we can bear. And the author of the article makes a good point. If God won't give us more than we can handle, then what do we need God for? If we can handle anything that comes our way, where does trust come in? or faith?
God does talk about suffering though (which is a topic, I've been dwelling on lately in my own personal studies) and Philippians 3:10 reads "That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death;" This verse has really come alive for me, as I have gone through difficulties in my life. They have led me to a deeper understanding of Christ's character. That's where the 'knowing' comes from. When we experience pain and suffering, we know Christ in a deeply personal way and the more we know Him, the more we love Him.
If you're like me and your heart is heavy and you're weary from all that you've been dealing with, you might be sitting here thinking "I think I know Him well enough by now, thanks! Someone else can have a go!" It's definitely tempting to feel that way, but there's another verse that I love.
I Peter 5:7 says "Casting all your care upon him, for he careth for you." Our burdens are bigger than we are. They are heavy. They are cumbersome. But this is good news! We don't have to carry them! God will take that weight and bear it for us. Why? Because he cares for us! You might think no one cares about you. You may feel completely isolated and alone. You may be ready to give up. Don't. God wants to take that burden for you and carry it. He created you and He loves you. He wants to ease it for you. He's watching you as you struggle right now and just waiting for you to ask Him for help.
Yesterday we received word that my dad will no longer be able to stay alone during the day. The doctor suggested adult day care and of course he was devastated. I'm devastated for him. I cried the whole way home. I can't even imagine how horrible it must feel to be slowly (and at times not so slowly) losing control of everything in your life. And none of us are able to change that for him. It's such a difficult thing to wrap my mind around. My dad is 61 years old. Only 61! He's not old enough to be considering adult day care. At 61, he should be in the prime of his life, getting ready to retire and enjoy his golden years. But instead he'll be faced with knowing he needs constant supervision. I will confess, a part of me is relieved that this moment has finally come. For the last few months, several different things have happened that have made it clear that he should not be left alone during the day. He's fallen a few times--once outside where the police found him and brought him home. And because the Parkinson's affects his mind, it doesn't occur to him that perhaps he should stay inside since no one is home with him. This will be a better solution. My mom gets out of school in a few weeks, so she can stay with him through the summer and use that time to figure out what step they'll take next. Your prayers for this situation are always appreciated.
There's one last thing to remember in all of this: We are always very familiar with our own struggles--our own situations--and it's easy to remember that other people may not know the extent of what we're dealing with. But along that same vein, let's try and remember that we don't know everything other people are dealing with either and let's be kind in our interactions. Maybe that kindness is what God can use to ease the other person's burden. Let's show love to one another.
♥Rebekah