Let's Send Some Love! xoxo

Hi friends, How is your Monday going? Did you get enough coffee to keep you going throughout the day? Did you have a fabulous weekend? I had a lovely weekend, myself.  No complaints here.  I do have a favor to ask of you all though.  Someone I love very much is dealing with something overwhelming and scary.  You see, the mom of one of my best and dearest friends has cancer.  She's been battling it for a while and recent complications have left her hospitalized with pneumonia on top of the cancer she has so bravely been battling.  Eileen has shown me excessive kindnesses over the three years that Stephanie and I have been friends.  And now I have a chance to show kindness back to her.

So here's my request of all of you: My friend, Stephanie, has asked that anyone who is able, send a card of encouragement to her mother, Eileen.  If you have kids and they want to draw her a picture or write a little note saying "Get Well Soon", I know anything would be appreciated and would make Eileen's day and make her heart (and Stephanie's) feel loved. The address to send cards to is:

Eileen Cox 1356 W 94th Ct. Crown Point, IN 46307

Let's send oh-so-many wonderful cards and spread love to someone who really needs it! It will only take a minute and it would mean so much. I know I can count on all of you to help this happen. And please be in prayer for Stephanie and Eileen and their wonderful family. Much love!

♥Rebekah

GUEST POST: Words of Wisdom from my friend, Travis

I saw this posted on Facebook yesterday and I appreciated it because it touched on a few things I've been thinking about lately.  I asked Travis if he would mind my sharing it on my blog and he very kindly agreed to let me do so.  Without further ado, here is what Travis has to say:

"The other day a friend of mine posted something to his Facebook that said something to the effect of, 'If it takes the promise of a divine reward for you to do good, you are not a good person.'

I've been mulling this over, and I've realized that such a sentiment betrays a fundamental misunderstanding of Christian love, and, even more so, a fundamental misunderstanding of God's love.

The assumption here is that Christian love and God's love are just like "the world's" love. I'm going to say something that will certainly make a lot of people angry: if you're not a Christian, everything you do is selfish. Now, before you unfriend me, hear me out. You love because you expect something in return. You might do something nice for a friend with the expectation that the friendship will grow, and you'd expect that friend to do nice things for you in the future. (In fact, if you perceive someone to be a 'taker', you likely won't continue to do nice things for them.) You might show love to someone you're interested in with the expectation that the relationship might lead to marriage. (And if things don't work out, how likely are you to be their friend afterwards?) At your best, you may show love to someone with no expectation from them, but knowing that it'll make you feel good about yourself, but even this is still about what you will get. And this is also why non-Christian love will never be complete, because this idea of love precludes you from doing anything that may offend someone or make you feel bad in any way.

"But wait a second," you say. "Don't Christians do the same thing?" While it is true that Christians can and do reap all the same rewards for love that you do, true Christian love is not motivated by those rewards. Rather, Christian love should be motivated by gratitude for what God has already given us. And since He has already given us everything, there can be no expectation of further reward. This is truly selfless: to do good knowing that there can be no reward. I would say that God's love takes it even a step further, because He gave us everything knowing that many would, in fact, deny that He ever did, and hate Him for it.

"Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another." -1 John 4:7-11"

Seeing as this blog is about love, more specifically loving others as Christ did, I thought these words were relevant and deserved to be shared. Thank you, Travis.

♥Rebekah

Real Talk... I'm Okay

You know how sometimes you can know something in your heart, or at least think you know it?  Then things happen in your life to test it and you realize you were wrong or somewhat mistaken or misguided. Other times, things happen and God uses those opportunities to confirm what you already know.

The latter happened to me recently.  I've been single most of my adult life.  A few 'mayyyybe' guys and one blip of a boyfriend in 2009 and that sums up most of my dating history. I have always been a glass-half-full kind of gal, so I have hardly sat at home moping for things I didn't have, even though in my heart, I do yearn for a husband and a family (we're all friends here, so I can be transparent, right?).  But I always told myself that I was fine.  I was okay.  I could wait and let things play out the way God wanted them to.  I had determined rather than sit around and bemoan my single status, I could take advantage of this precious time of singleness to do things I wouldn't be able to do as a married lady.  Examples range from sleeping in on a Saturday morning to meeting a friend for dinner and a movie at the last minute to taking a weekend away to visit friends. I'm sure as a mother, those times would be harder to come by.  There are other compensations, to be sure.

I'm not gonna lie, I do have those days where I sit and home and think "No one wants me. I'm going to die alone."

Not usually as upbeat as that^^ when it hits, but I have those moments. I don't know how to put it into adequate words, but if you've been single for a long period of time, you can understand the loneliness, the aching emptiness of being alone. Of always having to cry with no one to hold you and tell you it'll be okay.  Of making decisions that you have no desire to make because you're it--you're the only one who can make them for yourself.  But I have learned one thing.  There's a HUGE difference between being alone and being lonely. And being lonely is no reason to jump into a relationship.  If you do, you're probably going to be just as unhappy in your relationship as you already were. 

It is a truth universally acknowledged that... you don't get to be my age and single without wondering if you've become desperate or how long you can go before becoming desperate, because let's face it--for guys, it isn't quite so pressing, but for us womenfolk our biological clock is ticking.  If we want to have kids, we have a limited amount of time in which to do so. Tick tock!

However, I discovered (or rather reconfirmed) something about myself, though, pretty recently.  I'm not desperate! I mean, I thought I wasn't, but it was nice to have a confirmation.  Maybe I'm just not ready.  Maybe I am ready, but the right person just hasn't come along for me.  And you know what? That's okay. I'm willing to wait for the person who is just the right fit for me.  I know that God has been teaching me so much that will make me a better helpmeet to my future husband and I can only assume that He is also preparing my husband to be what I need and to be able to love me the way I deserve to be loved.  To love each other the way we both deserve. And if God never brings someone along for me, well, that's okay, too.  I'd be much happier to be alone than shackled (maybe that's too strong a word...) to someone who makes me miserable or who is just utterly wrong for me for the rest of my life.

When this realization hit me, I just sort of sat there grinning at myself.  Because you know what? It's a really good feeling.

♥Rebekah

Time Heals All Wounds...

I didn't even think about you yesterday. Not even once.  I'm a little bit ashamed now.  It's the first birthday since you left this earth almost twenty years ago that I've not remembered.

It doesn't hurt me to think about you now. And I do think of you--quite often. I remember how much you loved to laugh and how much you liked to tease me about becoming a "woman". I was only thirteen.  Hardly a woman. Haha! But you loved to tease me about that anyway. I remember how much you loved your kids and what kind of things would catch your eye i.e. Victorian lace, old Coca-Cola decor, etc.

Your death taught me so many things. Correction: It is still teaching me so many things.  Empathy and compassion for others who hurt; living life to the fullest because you never know when it will end. It's been one of the biggest factors to shape my life and to shape me into who I am today.  Because of you.

Do I wish you were still here? Most definitely, but only because I'm selfish. I know you're so much better off and wouldn't wish to come back even if you could. I just needed to tell you that I've reached another milestone in my grief over your loss.

You will never be forgotten, Aunt Gloria, and my heart continues to heal, a little at a time.

♥Rebekah